Maybe he's really not that into you!

Last night was the best!!!!!! *Tyrone put it DOWN and gave *Tina the best sex she had ever had and even though he had stood her up the last few times they were supposed to go out on a actual date all was forgiven! This morning when she got up extra early to fix him breakfast he said he wasn't hungry and only wanted some more of dat bomb p_ssy which she readily complied to giving him, afterward with a smile on his face he went to the bathroom and then came out and said his job called him into work! After a quick peck on the mouth he leaves in a hurry quickly jogging off to his car which he had parked all the way down the street! At first *Tina. was a Lil pissed off that *Tyrone. left so quickly , but then she thought about how the night before when he came over he had brought over some of the best Italian takeout she had ever tasted , lit some candles and di_ked her down so good there is no way she could stay mad at him! If he keeps treating her like this he definitely could be the one!

Now Ladies I know many of you are shaking your heads by now ...................Why didn't she get mad after he brought over some takeout instead of taking her out in public? Why didn't she say anything about him getting up and leaving so fast after they had sex or about being parked all the way down the street? The sad thing is MANY of you have been *Tina in one way or another (including myself) and not even realized it! You know it is so easy for us to look at someone else's situation and judge them harshly , but not pay attention to our own chaotic lives! Some of us ladies constantly over look the signs that a man isn't that into us because we so desperately want to be loved by someone instead of learning to love ourselves! The Boy-Men ( men that still act like boys) out there like these type of women (play-thangs/jumpoffs and probably have AT LEAST 3 to 4 a piece at even given time!



I've noticed that a most of the ladies who fit the criteria of a play-thang/jumpoff are quick to say ( after getting played by a boy-man) that the guy wasn''t all that anyway and that were just using him for money, sex etc., that is of course after having cried themselves to sleep because they finally realized that the one that they thought could be THE ONE only wanted them strictly for sex ! So what's a gurl to do?............................Trinity's Vibrator Twin Pack?:)

• SET YOUR STANDARDS HIGH! Now I'm not saying just because you want a man who is rich that you should diss a blue collar guy because he might be a good man for you, but if you notice that he drinks too much , has a lot of kids, has no goals etc. than kick him to the curb and move da hell on!If a man can't meet you minimal requirements than he isn't the one for you boo

• NEVER EVER FALL IN LOVE WITH A MAN'S POTENTIAL! Gurl you know what I'm talking about! "If only ______would stop doing _____ he would be perfect" If only he would do this, If only he would do that...... What makes you think he is going to change all of a sudden now? Like the old saying goes" When someone shows you who they really are believe them" Oh and then move the hell on!:)

• IF HE DOESN'T CALL YOU STOP LEAVING HIM MESSAGES AND MOVE DA HELL ON!Ladies this is a BIG one in my book because I feel if a man truly likes you he will find a way to get in contact with you! One of my girlfriends told me the other day that her "friend" said he had to break the date that they had been planning for over a week because his cell phone went dead! WTF? My response to my girlfriend was " If his azz really liked you he would've walked to a neighbor's house, asked to use a friends cell or walked to a pay phone to talk to you" Ladies if he goes a few days without calling you or claims that he was too busy or had phone issues move the hell on!Why make a man a priority in your life if you aren't one in his?

• LOVE YOURSELF FIRST! If you don't love you how in the world do you expect anyone else to? Everyone has flaws boo! Half of these celebrities we see on TV look like the CRYPT KEEPER without their makeup on! Stop looking in the mirror and downing yourself! Whether big or small, short or tall, cute or ugly there is a man out there who will love da hell out of you! Don't let him pass you by because you are too busy putting yourself down! Love you boo!

Ladies if you haven't already please check out these two books right here!Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment and He's Just Not That Into You: Your Daily Wake-Up Call

UNTIL NEXT TIME ................TOODLES!

Da Undercover Brother vs Da Black Woman

Ladies? Does your man have a close male friend who is mad suspect? Does he ALWAYS spend more time with his BOYZ than you? Has he been locked up for a significant amount of time? Does he always want to have ANAL sex with you ? Have you ever caught him and another man staring or looking at each other for no reason? Does he spend more time in the mirror than you! Does he wear lips gloss or have arched eyebrows ? Well boo I hate to tell you this but your man might be a BISEXUAL man living on the down low!

Exhibit A :Nokio and Sisqo from Dru Hill

They went from this.........

To this.............................

HOW YOU DOING?

And finally this............................

Nokio now sports tight clothes, a PURPLE mohawk and fingernail polish!

They both claim that they aren't gay or bi! SMH

Black men are especially famous for living on the DL, but who can really blame them ? If they were to tell their BLACK families ,girlfriends or wives the truth they know that they will be called a FAGGOT ,dumped and disowned! I hate to say this but BLACK WOMEN are some of the most JUDGEMENTAL people alive(I know because I'm one myself) I'm not saying that gives man the right to lie about his sexual orientation but I can definitely see way they do so ! Maybe if black women stop being so loud , argumentative and judgemental maybe our black men who are living on the DL will be comfortable enough to tell us the truth before we get intimate with them! Shit I wouldn't want to be with a bisexual man , but I would at least respect him for telling me the truth and allowing me to make the decision on whether I wanted to pursue a sexual relationship with him!

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smoochies!

After sex he likes to spoon with his latin lover!

Carlos got mad and pushed Terrell out of the closet by posting these pics online!

What man is going to tell you anything if he knows that you are going to act a complete fool? Just something to think about! Ladies regardless if a man is straight ,bi, tri or on the DL tell him ,no glove no love because we are getting infected with HIV and dying of AIDS more than anybody these days!

Until next time ..........Toodles